Have you ever been in bed with your partner and desperately want to orgasm, but something got in the way? If this happens to you frequently, you are not alone. Most women require more effort and take more time than men to reach their climax. It can be very frustrating, but it is a common problem, especially among women with hormonal disorders, taking certain types of medications, stress, or medical conditions that affect the pelvis. So what can you do about it? There are different techniques you can try that have helped an array of women reach their climax. They are easy to do and can be applied while you are already in bed setting fire to the sheets with your lover. If you think a medical problem is impeding your ability to orgasm, voice your concerns to your doctor. Here are some ways you can aid your orgasm in the battle for sexual release!
Relax: Too tense from a long day at the office? Did you just have a tiff with one of your in-laws? There are an infinite number of stress-causers in life, and stress is a major climax killer. If you are feeling too frazzled while in bed with your partner to focus on your pleasure, take deep breaths and put your stress out of mind. Easier said than done, right? Try replacing your stressful thoughts and feelings with your partner and the sensations you are receiving.
Focus on his touch, breathing and sweat to increase your arousal and decrease your stress. Make sure you are in a comfortable position—you don’t want to be distracted by something as silly as a misplaced pillow! Tell yourself that what is stressing you out isn’t the most important thing right now—your pleasure is! So put your mother-in-laws’s shrieking voice out of your head and listen to your partner moaning in your ear! Plus, having an orgasm relieves more than just sexual tension, so you may feel de-stressed after the festivities have ended!
Clitoral stimulation: This is a really great way to help your orgasm. Most women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm, so if you are one of those women, bring it on! The clit is highly sensitive and therefore is the focal point of some of the greatest sexual sensations, so use it to help you orgasm! You and your partner can give it plenty of attention during foreplay by rubbing and performing oral sex. It can get difficult to reach during intercourse, but certain positions can make it easier. Feel free to position yourself on top or in front of your partner to give you both more free hand use and flexibility. One of you can rub your clit and tickle you to ecstasy!
Share your needs with your partner: It might help to tell your partner that you really want to have an orgasm so he can really go the distance. If you think of something that might help you reach your orgasm (such as a position), feel free to tell him! He won’t mind pleasuring you as much as possible, and you can get closer to your climax! Communication is important to sexual health, so make sure you are effectively sharing your needs if you want them met.
If you feel shy talking about the things you would like, don’t be! It is safe to assume that your partner wants to pleasure you, and who knows—you might say exactly what he was thinking!
Orgasms are incredibly personal, so there is no one right way to aid your orgasm. There are many things you can try, so don’t give up if one technique doesn’t work for you! When you do find the tricks that send you over the edge, keep them in mind for the future. Struggling to consistently reach orgasm is a problem almost all women share, so don’t be ashamed!